Why can't we do both...?
I like many of the people have had plenty of discussions with the staff on the discord on how the server could be improved. This resulted in Akalix's foum post (viewtopic.php?t=12138) showing all the intended changes to the server. Is it coming too late for people? Sure, for many, but at least they listened and are doing things about it.
At the same time, we're also playing on the server and having fun. Some of us are running the Traveler guild which is specifically designed to make the world feel more lively (i.e. more chances of finding groups throughout the levelling experience). By the way, the current population isn't just full of players who were then on realm launch. We've had a lot of new people start in the last 2-3 weeks.
If everyone just packed it in to apparently send the message to TWoW that their server isn't 'fit for purpose', then the project would definitely get canned. In my opinion, and many others, that would be a crying shame. So, as mentioned, we will continue to play and have fun, whilst giving the staff our feedback and wait for their changes.